Heart, Head or Hell?
By Ken Donaldson I have a confession: I was confronted by a friendthis past week. She suggested that I mightpossibly be living more from my head than myheart. She wanted to know where all thesuccessful relationships were and was asking me,since I am THE REALationship Coach (That’s prettymuch the way she said it, too!) to show herevidence that these happy and successfulrelationships really existed. She was angry. Shewas hurt. She was sick and tired of the hell ofrelationship break-up. She was “mad as hell and wasn’t going to take itanymore”!! It was quite a conversation as I had to use myverbal Tai Chi to dodge her sarcastic and angryjabs, her cynical hooks and her negative mindsetabout relationship success being more like pie inthe sky. I can’t say I blame her one bit. She’s right.Where are those relationships? Yes, I do get to see many successfulrelationships, but that is mostly because of whatI do. But in everyday life, where are they? Sure,there are many people who seem to be content withtheir relationships, but underneath theirsuperficial smiles and socially correct acts, thetruth is, they are far from fulfilled. In fact, many of these people feel quite empty.That’s why they fill their lives with work,exercise, TV, sports, kids, and even drugs andalcohol. Not that most of those activities arenecessarily bad, but too often they are used asdistractions and artificial fillers for what islacking in their primary relationships. And then there is the all mighty addictiveenergy. Addiction feeds on emptiness. It willcome in and fill any void in your life fasterthan you say Kalamazoo (I’m originally fromMichigan and this is a city there…no comments!!). This is the hell. It is hell when you’vesuccumbed to addictive energy and are at it’smercy. It’s even more hellish when you don’t evenrealize it. But that is the power of addiction. Addiction will lay still, like a snake in thegrass, and lure you into it’s deceptive energy.How? All addictive behavior feels good, at leastat first. If it doesn’t feel good, it can’t beaddictive. Would you like to know the #1 addiction? You!Yes, you addicted to you (Me too, as we are allsusceptible). We get so caught up in how we look,what others might be thinking about us, howlittle we have, how bad the future might be, whatare other people might be saying about us, howwell did we do and how much we have, that wedon’t even stay connected to life. And just like any addictive pattern, it will growand grow until it rules, and ruins, your life. So, what’s the solution? The Heart. Yes, theHeart. When you stay connected to your Heart, youstay connected to your intuition, your Spirit andyour true Self. Perhaps the biggest challenge isto listen to your Heart and to trust it. Your Heart will also give the truest ofself-expression and truth. Your truth. After all,that is all that really matters for you. But addiction will try to get you to doubtyourself and second-guess yourself, buy intoimaginary fear and worry about how others mayrespond to your truth. Addiction will also try toconvince that everything is okay when, at thesame time, your Heart knows otherwise. Addiction tries to “protect” you from pain. Butin the end, it causes more pain than what itoriginally was trying to protect you from. Henceforth is THE challenge. Be true to you atyour core, in your Heart of Hearts, or be swayedby the deception of addiction. Want a solid, lasting, amazingly fulfilling andintimate relationship? Stay connected with yourHeart. Trust it. Love it. Respect it. Protect it.Don’t leave home (ever) without it. And I thank my friend for getting in my faceabout all this. I needed that. Now I’m getting in your face. Do I need to sayany more? Namaste’ *********** Ken DonaldsonThe REALationship Coach www.REALationshipCoach.com Ken@REALationshipCoach.com passion, power, purpose http://www.marryUfirst.com Ken Donaldson has been based in Tampa Bay offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. His REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first. Visit his website at http://www.REALationshipCoach.com for more information and sign-up his free e-program Illuminations and Sparks of Brilliance. Ken is also the author of the upcoming book Marry YourSelf First! Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Ken_Donaldson http://EzineArticles.com/?Heart,-Head-or-Hell?&id=190749 buy generic fioricet cheap fioricet online buy generic fioricet generic fioricet
